Holidays and life…

I don’t know how it is where you are right now, but in Europe we are starting the holiday’s season.

I love going on holidays. Holidays are for me like a major reward for my hard work. Yes, I do work hard, and although I am traveling a lot for my work, holidays are something else. Of course I like to visit new places, meet new people, taste new food and enjoy different cultures. But the most important for me is the fact that I have much more time with my family. Normally we are all preoccupied with our daily activities. Work, school, household, shopping… During the holidays we can focus much more on each other.

The second major plus of holidays is that I have time for myself. Holidays are for me the most important evaluation time. Time when I look back on the last year.

Jim Rohn once said that “most of the people spend more time planning their holidays than their lives”.

Isn’t it interesting? Spending more time planning holidays not your own life…

It was also Jim Rohn who said that “If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what someone else has planned for you?

Yes, you are right. Not much!

Therefore I would like to invite you to use the holidays not only to rest and to reload, to discover and to enjoy, but also to reflect on our lives. When we are out of the daily rush and daily activities it is the perfect time to evaluate if our life plan works well for us.

We could come to the conclusion that we need to design a new plan or adjust the existing one!

Take an evening and write down what is really important and valuable to you. What makes you happy? What makes you stand up early and stay up late with the feeling “yes, this is good”? Discuss it with your partner, with your children. Asked what is really important and valuable to them?

Examine your goals. Is your reason still strong and powerful enough to take you through the difficulties while pursuing your goals?

Think a bit about your attitude. Are you happy with the way you feel about the past, about the future, about other people and the most important: about yourself?

Make a reality check of the activities you performed to get where you are now. Have you worked on the right projects? Do you have the right skills, right tools? Will all you did up till now bring you where you want to be?

Take some time and look at people you spend most of your time with. People that have the biggest influence on you. Do they make you smile, make you happy? Are you growing by being with them? Are you learning new skills? Are you becoming better? Do you have the right people around to do the things that are actually bringing you closer to where you want to be?

Look objectively at your results. Are you making measurable progress in reasonable time?

No matter what the answers are, you will collect sufficient material to create a new plan or adjust the existing one!

Les Brown once said “You cannot expect to achieve new goals or move beyond your present circumstances unless you change.”

Therefore resolve to make good changes and plan your life around all that is really important and valuable to you.

Dealing with difficulties

Last week was quite challenging for me. Not only was I traveling a lot and working long hours, but I had to stop some associations and deliver some true but not very positive messages.

When you run businesses quite often you have to make difficult decisions. Decisions that can have an impact on other people’s lives. When it happens, even though I know the decision is right, still it is hard and heavy to carry it out. It makes me feel lonely.

Have you experienced similar feelings? Feelings of loneliness when you have to make tough, difficult decisions?

When it happens to me I need more than ever to have my moments with positive, encouraging messages.

For me it is usually a seminar or a book of my favorite speaker or author. Les Brown, Jim Rohn, Tony Robins, Zig Zigler. You know what I mean! Sometimes it is not sufficient.

If this doesn’t help me, I am going to my cave where I can be with myself. I am going through the lessons I learned and evaluating what happened. Most of the time it is enough to get back to a positive attitude, but sometimes even this does not work.

Then I need someone close to me to give me encouragement and assurance. This one is tough as I need to open myself. I need to show that I am vulnerable. At such a moment it is good to have a real friend. Someone who will accept my moment of weakness without misusing it and without judging. I am lucky as my best friend is my wife. She has this fantastic ability to encourage me without putting me down!

It is quite normal that sooner or later we have to face difficult choices. Choices that can shake our self-believe, self-confidence.

My strategy for situations like this is to go through the steps I mentioned before.

  • Go to the Masters and listen to the wisdom, positive messages and energy.
  • Go to myself and evaluate the lessons I learned.
  • Go to my partner, my friend and open myself.

I know it works for me and you are welcome to use it for yourself. But this is not the main lesson. The main lesson is to realize that in the circle of life we will meet both positive and negative and it is better to be prepared and to have a plan what to do when difficulties will face us. In the end we will always find a way, but if we are prepared it will take minutes or hours not months or years!

Why planning is necessary?

Planning is quite interesting process.

You have clear vision where you want to be. You put all the actions, times, dependencies and resources to get there. You start with enthusiasm and what you will find out is…

that something works just not the way you planed! You need to improvise, change and adjust.

So what is the plan good for one may ask?
I think there are 3 main reason why planning is necessary:

  • You decide where and when you want to be (clear goal)
  • You make it clear that you can get there (faith).
  • Points 3 and 2 give you necessary push to start! (motivation)

With motivation, faith and clear goal you will find inspiration to improvise, change and adjust!