Happy birthday Mr. Jim Rohn

Today is the 85th birthday of Jim Rohn, an extraordinary man, who touched positively many, many lives.

His words started my conscience journey of personal development.

Jim you did a good job! I am so blessed that I met you in the right time and in the right place. You will always live in my thoughts.

Happy birthday!

Who am I?

A few days ago I read a book by Bert Jukes “The Successful Mindset”. The first chapter is all about discovery “who am I”. I love this approach as it stimulates us to think about maybe the most important aspect of our existence – about ourselves.

Of course when you start to think about “who am I”, you want to come to some conclusions, you want to have some answers.

It proofs to be easier to say than to do, at least for me. The first question that came to my mind is: what defines who we actually are?

Is it true what Buddha teaches that “The mind is everything. What you think you become”? Or maybe we are what we do? Or maybe we are the product of the results we produce? Or maybe it is all the same? As what we think should impact what we do and what we produce?

I think that I agree with Buddha who said that “What you think you become…” but I like Jim Rohn’s explanation better. He said that what we conclude based on our knowledge and experience defines our life philosophy. For me the life philosophy is my view of life and my attitude towards it. It is the sum of conclusions based on believes, knowledge and experiences. My life philosophy determines my attitude and the way I am acting. Both attitude and activities will create the results that are directly connected to my life philosophy.

Generally I can say that I am what I think is good or bad, what I think is important or not so important, what I believe is valuable or not so valuable, what I believe is true or false. As these believes, conclusions and knowledge will determine my attitude and activities. It will make me the person whom you know.

Now comes the difficult part. If my attitude and actions are directly connected to my life philosophy can I say that I am what I do? I don’t think so… I think that although the way we perform different activities is directly connected to our life philosophy, we can only know if our actions were aligned with what we are when we look at the results. As what we think and what we produce does not have to be the same. In the end we are only humans and we can make mistakes, we can choose the wrong way, thinking that it will produce different results.

The beautiful part of this approach is that even if we do not produce what we want, we can analyze it and adjust our attitude and our activities, we can change what we do to be better align with what we think, to be better align with what we are. In the end this is what the “Good change” is all about.

Again I liked the way Bert Jukes describes in his book a conversation with his best self. This kind of conversation can help us to make better choices and shows us that what we are busy with, is actually a never-ending process of aligning our attitude and activities with our thoughts.

This is good stuff, isn’t? I am exited thinking and talking about it! So what are my conclusions? What do I believe and know? I do not want to bore you with my life philosophy. The fun stuff is to discover your own! But for now I would like to give you just a few examples.

I know that we come to the Earth with 2 great gifts: time and genetic information. I believe that it is our responsibility to use both gifts to the best of our abilities.

I believe that the most important freedom we have is the freedom of choice. I know that with this freedom comes, equally important, the responsibility for our choices.

I believe that every dream has its price. I know that people who go for their dreams, humbly accept the price or quit.

I believe that we need “all of us” to make the best of our gifts, to make the best choices and to go for the biggest dreams. I know that the best way to achieve something big and long-lasting is to cooperate with each other based on a win – win principle.

What are your believes and conclusions? Are you thinking about your life philosophy? Are you working on your personal development?

Well there are for sure lots of questions coming to my mind right now and I think that this very well may be the biggest value I got from the book of Bert Jukes. Bert, thank you for challenging me to think!

 

 

I will take care of me for you…

Today’s blog is from the beautiful city of Pisa in Italy.
Yes this is vacation time and I have to think of Jim Rohn’s quote:

“I will take care of me for you, if you will take care of you for me…”

I think these are powerful words. “To take care of me for you!” But what does it means? For me it means that if I care for you I need to take care of me.

I need to take care of my mind. To make my mind receptible for new ideas, new dreams and new goals.

I need to take care of my attitude. I need to have the right, positive attitude. An attitude that will lift you and help you become better!

I need to take care of my body. This one is tough for me. I am not a very sportive person. I like to enjoy good food and nice drinks. But if I care for you, I need to live as healthy as I can!

I need to take care of my personal philosophy. My personal philosophy is my guide, it helps me to make the right decisions and helps me with even the toughest choices.

Isn’t it interesting? I think the idea is quite powerful!

My question is: do you have someone you really care about? If the answer is yes, then you also should take care of you for this person 🙂

By the way, this philosophy is not only for the holidays! It is as valid in the beautiful city of Pisa in Italy as it is at your home.

Wishing you a great weekend and an even better week!

The most valuable asset

I believe that time is our most valuable asset. If only for the reason that we can’t acquire more of it. Knowing that should make us think twice about what we actually do with our time. Generally we can invest it or spend it. The difference is huge. The time invested in what is important to us, to our family to our business will produce long-lasting effects, the time spend will create empty spaces in our memories.

The good question is: why so many of us spend the time instead of invest it?

I think Jim Rohn captured the challenge greatly in his quote:

“Don’t mistake movement for achievement. It’s easy to get faked out by being busy. The question is: Busy doing what?”

So what are we busy with? What occupies our thoughts and makes us do what we do?

I like to believe that “Life is a constant battle for a perfect balance. There is a time to work, there must be a time to rest. There is a time for others, there must be a time for us. The challenge is to get it right!”

Is there a magic formula? Some simple advice we can follow and get the right results? Well I wish I would have it! I would probably be rich, famous and beloved by all people who turned their lives around for the better. Unfortunately it is not so easy. Why? Because we all are unique and for each of us a different balance is required.

What I can do is share with you my thoughts and my way of dealing with the time challenge.

First of all what I learned is that we tend to spend most of our time on activities that have “Urgent” written all over them. The second group of activities we spend time on are activities that are neither important nor urgent, but seem to us like attractive and interesting.

What we tend to procrastinate are activities that are important but not urgent. These activities seem to be in the shadow of “Urgent”, “Attractive” and “Interesting”.

Yet the secret for creating a perfect balance is in this group of activities that are important and not urgent. In this category we have thinking and planning. When I say thinking I mean meaningful planned activity which results in conclusions. Not just random thoughts that we have all the time in our head. We should think about what is valuable and important for us personally, for our families and for our business…

Only when we decide what is valuable and important, we can actually prepare meaningful planning. The process of creating the planning is very important. A good planning increases our motivation for achieving what we want to achieve. Furthermore we create reference for prioritizing all other activities.

Now what we need is the right attitude and we can proceed with what we planned.

Our activities will produce results which we can evaluate and check if we are actually coming closer to what is valuable and important or not.

If results are not in line with our expectation we should check one of 3 places: was the conclusion of what is valuable and important correct? Was our attitude right? Did we performed the right activities with the right intensity?

When the work is done well, we will see that activities in the category “Important” and “Urgent” will contain only crisis situation which we could not plan or predict. The activities that are “Urgent” but not important will decrease drastically. Why? Because we will have clear priorities and we will simple say “no” to most of these activities. The same with activities that are “Not important” and “Not urgent”.

It is always 20% of activities that will produced 80% of the required results. By thinking, planning and evaluating we have much bigger chances to actually discover the right formula for the perfect balance in our life. The perfect balance is what I would like to wish you and myself for the coming week and entire life.

 

 

Special friends

We all need a sparring partner. Someone we can check our ideas with, someone who can give us friendly advice without judging and making fun of us, don’t we?

If we are lucky we have such a person around us, but very often this person has not sufficient experience and skills to deliver all the answers we need.

Normally in our life we would need to have multiple friends with different experiences and knowledge to be around us wherever and whenever we need them… But this is not very easy to achieve.

Therefore I developed my own “special friends super force” team.

I will show you how to become a friend with Winston Churchill and how to convince Abraham Lincoln to become your sparring partner! Isn’t that something! I hope you are excited about this perspective.

Internet is a very powerful tool. One thing I love about Internet is the ability to search through it for whatever I need.

Someone wise once said that if you will search you will find… This is how I discovered a way to talk with people I need, wherever and whenever I need them. I also found out that after a while we become special friends.

How does it work? Very simple.

Let’s say that I am wondering why something does not work for me. I am going to my friends and ask them the following question:

Guys, I am trying to get this thing working for me and all I get is frustration instead of the expected results. Do you know what am I doing wrong?

Jim Rohn begins with: “You can cut a tree with a hammer but it will take 30 days…”

Jim, do you mean that I might have the wrong skills or wrong tools?

Abraham Lincoln is saying to me: “Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.”

You mean Abraham that I may not be correctly prepared? I got you!

Winston Churchill adds: “Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference…”

Easy to say Winston, you should try to have a good attitude, after five attempts and no results. I am working so hard on it!

Jim Rohn interrupts: “Don’t mistake movement for achievement. It’s easy to get faked out by being busy. The question is: Busy doing what?”

Right Gents! So I need to check if my skills and tools are right, get better prepared, straighten my attitude and make a better plan for my actions! Thank you for this great advice!

Another example. I come broken down from a business meeting. I feel rotten as some people were trying to pull me down. You know, if it takes long enough you start to believe them…

So I go to my friends and ask: can I really do it? Am I the right person for this job?

Les Brown smiles and says: man “don’t let someone else’s opinion of you become your reality!”.

Zig Ziglar interrupts with his specific accent and smile: you know that “far too many people have no idea of what they can do because all they have been told is what they can’t do.”

Goethe looks at me and says: ”Everything is hard, before it is easy”…

“Yes, yes, yes”, says Henry Ford, “when everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it”…

Then Les Brown ends with: “You have something special, you have greatness within you!”

Thanks to my friends and their wisdom my attitude rises up and I am ready to face another day.

These are just some examples that are helping me with my questions and doubts. I am sure you got the idea.

What is beautiful about this method is that you can use it completely for free! All you need to have is your question ready, some free time and Internet. When you will use it regularly you will find the positive impact it has on your life… And after a while you will select a group of your own special friends who can help you whenever and wherever you need it.

Holidays and life…

I don’t know how it is where you are right now, but in Europe we are starting the holiday’s season.

I love going on holidays. Holidays are for me like a major reward for my hard work. Yes, I do work hard, and although I am traveling a lot for my work, holidays are something else. Of course I like to visit new places, meet new people, taste new food and enjoy different cultures. But the most important for me is the fact that I have much more time with my family. Normally we are all preoccupied with our daily activities. Work, school, household, shopping… During the holidays we can focus much more on each other.

The second major plus of holidays is that I have time for myself. Holidays are for me the most important evaluation time. Time when I look back on the last year.

Jim Rohn once said that “most of the people spend more time planning their holidays than their lives”.

Isn’t it interesting? Spending more time planning holidays not your own life…

It was also Jim Rohn who said that “If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what someone else has planned for you?

Yes, you are right. Not much!

Therefore I would like to invite you to use the holidays not only to rest and to reload, to discover and to enjoy, but also to reflect on our lives. When we are out of the daily rush and daily activities it is the perfect time to evaluate if our life plan works well for us.

We could come to the conclusion that we need to design a new plan or adjust the existing one!

Take an evening and write down what is really important and valuable to you. What makes you happy? What makes you stand up early and stay up late with the feeling “yes, this is good”? Discuss it with your partner, with your children. Asked what is really important and valuable to them?

Examine your goals. Is your reason still strong and powerful enough to take you through the difficulties while pursuing your goals?

Think a bit about your attitude. Are you happy with the way you feel about the past, about the future, about other people and the most important: about yourself?

Make a reality check of the activities you performed to get where you are now. Have you worked on the right projects? Do you have the right skills, right tools? Will all you did up till now bring you where you want to be?

Take some time and look at people you spend most of your time with. People that have the biggest influence on you. Do they make you smile, make you happy? Are you growing by being with them? Are you learning new skills? Are you becoming better? Do you have the right people around to do the things that are actually bringing you closer to where you want to be?

Look objectively at your results. Are you making measurable progress in reasonable time?

No matter what the answers are, you will collect sufficient material to create a new plan or adjust the existing one!

Les Brown once said “You cannot expect to achieve new goals or move beyond your present circumstances unless you change.”

Therefore resolve to make good changes and plan your life around all that is really important and valuable to you.

Some thoughts about civilized behavior…

In West Europe we entered the 21st Century full of hope and expectations. Hope for peace and expectations for prosperity. Especially for me the last years of the 20th Century and the first few of 21st Century were very promising and hopeful.

My motherland Poland, after becoming free from communistic rules, began marching towards the European community. Becoming a member of the EU and NATO, being the only green island of economic growth in the years of crisis.

Unfortunately, the last few years with the resurrection of Putin’s imperialistic and nationalistic philosophy have put my optimism and hope on the state of alert.

Yesterday I found my favorite seminar by Jim Rohn: “Leadership Weekend” where Jim is talking about civilized behavior and I think his thoughts are even clearer today than during the change of millenniums. In his seminar Jim Rohn said that civilized behavior means restriction of power as power has the ability (temptation) to corrupt and absolute power has the ability to corrupt totally.

In the course of history we have seen people who could not resist this temptation. We know them as they have influenced the history of our planet. Who does not know Stalin, Hitler, Mao etc…

But for me the words of Jim have quite a different dimension. Maybe an even more important one! The restriction of power is the basic for civilized behavior not only in military or political aspects. It is true for our daily human activities!

It all starts with one of the most important jobs on Earth which is parenthood. How we will act as a parents towards our children makes a huge impact on what our future will look like. Are we as parents really there to educate our children? To show them what is good and what is bad? Do we have / take time to explain what civilized behavior is and why?

Then we have the second frontier which is school and our education system. Are the teachers ready to curb the power of our children? Do they have the right tools and skills? Have they been taught to not misuse the power given to them by the job they are performing?

What about the workplace. Are the managers and leaders conscious about the role they play in the shaping of civilized behavior of the workforce? Do they understand that the temptation to misuse the power given to them by the job description can make them uncivilized and can push their employees to defense?

What do you think about spiritual and political leaders? Is the hope of winning the next election or getting a better position a legitimate excuse to misuse the power?

Well, all these are small things that have no huge impact on the history of the World. So one could wonder why we should care.

My answer would be: because this is important for our future! Restricting power in all the different places will not protect us from tyranny, crime or another form of abuse all the time. However it can make it more difficult and sometimes impossible for abusive use of power. It will also make us more alert and it will make us more conscious so that the next time when temptation will present itself we will think twice! Being aware of the power we have, being alert of power abuse and being willing to act when necessary is one of the most important aspects of civilized behavior.

I also believe that this is one of the most important lessons of Jim Rohn on this subject.

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Respect and love yourself!

It might sound like cliché but I do believe that you can only give what you possess.

I believe this simple principle applies not only for tangible. It applies for emotions as well!

How could you give your respect, when there is no respect within you?

How could you give love, when there is no love within you?

If you want to give away your love and respect you need to find a way to respect and love yourself!

Only then you will be able to fully appreciate one of my favorite quote of Jim Rohn:

“I will take care of me for you, if you will take care of you for me.”

Am I learning anything?

Albert Einstein said the definition of insanity is doing something over and over again and expecting a different result.

How come we are often repeating the same error? We want to achieve different results by doing the same over and over again?

Les Brown in today’s “Daily Motivation” speech ask the same question.

Are you learning anything?

I know I am. But am I learning all I can? Am I learning the right things? Will the things I learn help me to become better? These questions can only be answer by measuring the results.

But aren’t results relative? For one person losing 10 pounds could be a huge success, for another one it could be a huge disaster…

So how do I know if I do well? Till I will figure it out let me use wisdom of Jim Rohn:

Life asks us to make measurable progress in reasonable time. That’s why they make those fourth grade chairs so small – so you won’t fit in them at age twenty-five!

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Self-motivation

I am one of these people who need a positive push or motivation to keep going. I love when it happens. Everything becomes easier. The long list of excuses becomes shorter and a short list of reasons why I should do something becomes longer.

Do you recognize it?

Well, that’s me. I know that we all are different, but I believe there are more people like me. People who need motivation and like to be motivated.

There are many ways to „find” motivation. There are great motivational speakers like Les Brown or Tony Robins, who can touch our soul and heart. They can make us feel great and motivate us. There are great books and great seminars. All of it works!

The challenge however is, how to be motivated on request, how to be motivated now? Without waiting for the next seminar or the next speech.

The answer to this challenge is given by Jim Rohn in The Treasure of Quotes:

“The best motivation is self-motivation. The guy says, “I wish someone would come by and turn me on.” What if they don’t show up? You’ve got to have a better plan for your life.

When I was searching for my plan I found out that it is possible for me to create motivational templates. Templates that are available for use on my request, at the moment motivation is the most important to me.

How does it work? When I set myself a goal or plan an activity, I am taking time and consciously think about at least 3 reasons “why”. I sort the reasons in my thoughts to find the 3 which are most appealing to me. Then I memorize them and give it a name. It becomes my motivational template.

Then when a moment comes that my level of motivation drops, I take a short break and recall the corresponding template. I smile and go through the most appealing “why’s” I stored in the template at the moment I created it. Most of the time it works for me like magic. Within a few seconds I feel motivated and I can go further.

There are exceptions. Once in a while my motivational template does not work. When this happens it is always because the “why” list is not appealing to me anymore. There are generally 2 reasons for that:

  • I was cheating myself when I was creating my motivational template.
  • My philosophy changed and I did not recognize that a specific goal or action is no longer aligned with it.

Even though it does not work all the time, I can assure you, that all the times it does works, it makes my life much easier! The long list of excuses becomes shorter and a short list of reasons why I should do something becomes longer and I can go further…

In the end what Jim said is true:

“When you know what you want, and you want it bad enough, you will find a way to get it.”