The problems we can’t solve

I am sure you will agree with me, that if we really want something, we will find the way to get it. We can change priorities, act differently, we can learn new skills, we can hire people to do it for us or ask them for help. When there is a will there is a way. We just need to realize that we want it badly enough, be willing to get out of our comfort zone and to pay the price.

The same is with the problems we are confronted with. When we know we have a problem and we really want to solve it, the problem is as good as solved.

But what if we have a problem we do not know about? Well, one can say, it’s not a problem, as we are not aware of it. However, most of us are part of some bigger group. Family, work team, sport team, friends etc. Now the situation is a little bit more complex. We might be not aware of the problem we have, but others can very well might be negatively affected  by it.

The problem we can’t solve is the problem we are not aware of… It is so simple, we can’t solve our problem when we do not even know we have it, especially when we are in a leadership position and we have strong character.  The chances are quite big, that people around will not easily come to us to reveal it to us.

Another quite important aspect is if we are willing and open to listen to someone who is revealing our problem. Will we it be seen by us as a token of trust and help or will it be seen by us as criticism and form of attack?

I think it is very important to realize that our self-deception is mostly connected to this phenomenon and it is very important to have trusted companions who are willing and able to disclose our blind spot. Only then we will be able to actually come to the point of making a conscious decision if the disclosed problem is worthy of our time and energy to solve it.

From my experience I learned that the problems we can’t see are most likely the problems we need to solve urgently to be able to grow and to become better.